Wednesday, September 28, 2022, 7:59 AM
Flora appeared spontaneously in my Galantamine fueled dream some time between 1:40 and 2:00 AM. I know this as I awoke spontaneously at 1:40, took the med, went back to sleep, had a very long involved dream with no feminine presence, then suddenly Flora appeared, she was tall, dressed in white, her longish black hair was pulled back into a pony tail. She was wearing gold loop earrings and was perhaps fifty years old. She had an aliveness about her that I recognized. I immediately issued my lucidity cue: “Are you Flora,” to which she responded, “Yes, dummy!” just as my 2 AM alarm sounded waking me. I turned it off before it awakened my wife, Nancy. I was unable to again achieve a sleep deep enough to achieve a REM state, so did not dream. I awoke to the 6 AM alarm, not dreaming, and dozed, trying unsuccessfully to find Flora in a hypnogogic state. I gave up and got up at 6:18AM to start my day. I found the entire experience to be unsatisfactory. Flora was not accompanied by the usual emotional tell. Some context: Nancy and I had reached an entirely new and deeper level of intimacy yesterday. We were able to empathize with each other about the effects of the lack of passion in our relationship. We were both brought to tears by this revelation. I, for the first time since our marriage five years ago, felt heard. She felt the same. I am not surprised that Flora appeared spontaneously, nor am I surprised, though not happily, that I did not have the emotional reaction to her. She exists as I experienced a blockage in my ability to communicate my disappointment regarding this issue to Nancy. I am no longer disappointed! Incidentally, our rabbi, called those who had unresolved disappointments to the bemah for an aliyah. I did not go up! I felt the issue to have been resolved and did not wish to provoke my routine addicted mind to fall again into the routine of disappointment.
I am looking forward to Flora’s further development. I continue…